Love and Other Drugs

So I was struggling with a good topic for blogging tonight when I saw a commercial for "Love and Other Drugs" the movie.  This particular commercial seemed to draw attention to the size of the man's whoowhodilly.  So I say, is size important.  YES.  But big isn't always better; in fact too big can be too scary!

Now this is a topic women talk about alot and men are terrified of!  Yes size does matter. I mean lets face it, if its too small and you can't even feel it whats the point?  and if it's so big you're afraid of it, then anything that happens isn't gonna be good cuz its preceded with fear!  Really what matters is a good size, not too small but not to big and a man who knows how to work it...if all they do is the same motion, over and over and over...really?  What men need to know is we don't want to hear you brag about your size, or your insecurities about it...show us you know how to work with what you got and its fine.  I hear lots of stories from my single girl friends and let me tell you, the single guys out there need some serious teaching;  I am so happy I am married! 

So here's my advice.  Men who are on the small side...learn how to use it and learn some other tricks too, men who are too big...you need to learn patience and go slow...men who are "perfect" in size...ah ah ah...you still need to know how to use it and tricks won't hurt you either...nothing is worse than a man with a "perfect" whoowhoodilly who has no clue what he's doing!   Women; if you are single, paired and unsatisfied or simply under-satisfied  invest in a good BOB and learn about your own body, what you like, what feels good, what you are comfortable with and what you're not!  Sex is a two way street, both need to participate and think about their partner not just themselves.....

Intimacy is different from sex;  a lot of women think sex is intimacy but its not.  Intimacy is when you really open up to someone, insecurities and all.  Sometimes intimacy involves sex, sometimes its simply cuddling, kissing and talking, getting to know another person.  For myself and my husband, intimacy is often sharing our fears, feelings, and desires; our hopes for the future, crying in front of each other and sharing when we are scared.

So Love...what is love...love and sex are NOT interchangeable...so many young women think if they have sex with someone that person will "love" them....open your eyes girls! Sex does NOT equal love...sex with someone you barely know often equals, heartbreak, self defeat, STI's and self doubt!  DO NOT have sex thinking it will get you closer to someone you barely know, make someone fall in love with you or fix ANY sort of relationship issue; it doesn't...its just sex.  Love is, in the words of bruno mars; when you would "catch a grenade" for someone; literally lay down your life for theirs....I never knew true love until I met my husband and even  more so when I had my daughter...I would die for that little girl without a second thought, without even a first thought...love is not selfish, it isn't boastful or self serving,  love is complete giving of yourself; without expectation of reward...LOVE is hard to find and once you truly have it hold on to it!

Other drugs:  I honestly believe there are people who are addicted to being in "love", dating, and having relationships.  I know people who have been in one relationship after another without ever spending any time alone...often finding the "next one" while still with the "current one".  This to me screams of insecurity.  Yes love is great, it makes you feel amazing, invincible and your body releases endorphins that make you feel even better, but Love is give and take, love is work and when it gets hard, thats when you can tell who is really in "love" and who is just addicted to the good parts of it.

Wow...how did discussion of male size lead to discussion of love...i don't know but here it is.  Feel free to share when you knew you were actually in LOVE with someone.